First, Be Sure They Actually Belong to You
Since the election, if you have been feeling fear, grief, outrage, overwhelm, despair or others feelings, know that you're not alone. People have been feeling similar things not just here, but all over the world.
And I want to help. But first, you need to make sure those feelings are 100% yours. And then, let go of what isn't actually yours.
But please know that I will never invalidate what you feel or tell you to get over it! That is not what I mean at all, I promise.
So let's start! Take a moment right now to go within. Breathe in and out a few times, and slow it down just a bit. It might be easier with your eyes closed, but it's okay if you'd rather not.
Then, when you're comfy & relaxed, let yourself begin to remember a few of the feelings you have been having since the election. Name them if you can.
Or, You Might Be Both
"Put simply, an Empath is a person who absorbs other people's emotions & experiences these emotions as if they were their own. As an Empath you feel and experience the world a lot more deeply than those around you. Occurring in an estimated 5% of the population, Empaths in a sense personify empathy, being able to physically, emotionally and psychologically experience the feelings of other people on a daily basis."--lonerwolf.com
"A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), is a person who has been biologically wired to feel life in an amplified way. Highly Sensitive People have strong physical reactions to sounds, smells, light, tastes, physical stimuli, emotions and even energy. If you are an HSP, you will be able to process the subtleties of life more intensely than others." -lonerwolf.com
The reason I mentioned the possibility that you are an empath or a highly sensitive person is twofold. Many of the people who I work with or encounter here are one or the other, and some are both.
The other reason is that being an empath or a highly sensitive person after the election may have made it difficult to know if the intensity of what you were feeling & are feeling was just you or you + the feelings of all the people you were connecting to at the time.
That's What Happened to Me
It's easy to tell the difference when the feelings don't make any sense, right? But I had very good reasons to be upset so I assumed that the totality of that upset was mine.
It wasn't! More on how I realized that later.
So Many are Feeling it, it's in the Air
How to Test for the Percentage that's Yours
But over the years, unfortunately, I kinda forgot. Oops! And it was during my own post-election grief experience that my spirit guides reminded me.
So I tested for the percentage of fear that was really mine, since that was the feeling that was bothering me most. It was 17%! Which astounded me.
A day or so later, I tested about the difficulty I was having with trust. How much of that was mine? Well it was 66%, which is quite a bit, but still not a hundred.
Later that same day, I tested for how much of my sadness & depression about the election was mine. It was only 5%! Shocking, right?
And telling yourself the truth is really powerful! I now have much less fear or sadness, only transient feelings of despair, and much more trust.
So I want to tell you how to test for your own percentages & then, what to do once you've found them.
3 Ways to Test Yourself...
(1) Muscle Testing: If you know any muscle-testing techniques, you can use them to test for the percentage. My favorite is the Sway Test. You stand still & ask a question. If your body moves you forward, that's usually a "yes," and backward is "no."
(2) Pendulum: for most people, if it swings in a clockwise circle, that's a "yes." And counterclockwise is "no." But you can find out for sure, with any testing technique, by asking a question you know the answer to, like "my name is ..."
(3) Just Ask: you can pray or ask to know the exact percentage, and see what number floats into your mind.
Start by testing, "my ... (fear, despair, etc.) is 100% mine. If the answer is "no," keep going, by ten or twenty or more until you get a "yes." And ask every question you have about your feelings.
I ask things like, "more than _ %" until I get a yes, and then, I test each number until I get another "yes." For instance, if I got "no," for "more than 30%," but "yes," for "more than 20%," I'd test 21, 22, 23, etc. until I landed on the exact percentage.
What to Do Next
Once you know how much of what you are feeling doesn't actually belong to you, you can chop away the energetic cord, or tie, or connection.
Pretend you are doing karate chops all around you. Once you are done, you are likely to feel a lot lighter, and not as upset. For me, that's starts to happen when I find the percentage. The chopping just sort of seals the deal.
Let me know how it goes for you! And stay tuned for more posts in the Post-Election Survival Kit.
Love to you!